I've been told not to trust other people easily. I've been told because that's one of my weaknesses. Then witnessing what my parents have been through, it taught me one thing: that it's true. Never trust yourself to anyone. Never. It's crap 'cause it's pretty damn hard. For me it's probably not gonna work, if only I can make it work, I wouldn't trust anyone but myself. I think the only person who wouldn't wanna try hurting me is myself. So I'm safer here.
No man is an island. And I think I'm the only exception. I am an island. The lost and the cursed. And that's exaggerating. Well two is still better than one. I hope I don't sound conceited or anything, I'm just stating a fact. Träume und Wünsche müssen manchmal sterben wie Blumen im Winter. Aber ihre Samen überleben in der Erde bis zum nächsten Frühling. And while that happens, I'm learning lessons in life. So even if life sometimes sucks as hell, I stand up and get up to see what happens next.
You don't really end up happy all the time, you can't have the best of both worlds; but it shapes up your personality. The problem is, there are always lessons, but do we ever learn them and take them in? For someone as stubborn as I am, learning is something really difficult to chew in. If you're too vulnerable like me, people will take you for granted. And yes I wouldn't say so if I hadn't experienced myself. If you keep trying to close an open door, accepted what ought to be rejected, prolonged what oughtta be stopped; if you keep giving without taking (or vice-versa), even if you keep understanding without being understood.. you're bound to lose every little win you have. At the end of the day, you walk home alone crying.
I've been told that my biggest weakness is that I'm too trusting - "You tend to trust people too much, this shows you care about people a lot and value them; however trusting too much can often lead to getting hurt because you will let people walk all over you and forgive them all the time. Be careful!" Does that make sense? Slowly, I discovered how I am instinctively isolating myself from people I've learned to get close with. My mom, for instance, I kinda noticed that something has changed with my relationship to her, no matter how small that be. Then, I feel that sometimes, I become a little too indifferent to people around me: family, friends, colleagues, etc. I know it's hard to regain trust of all things, but I'm too weak to defeat it, especially if I'm faced against someone I care about too much.
I don't know how this is gonna turn out for me. As usual, all I have in my hands are questions unanswered.. A friend once said, "Don't allow others to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option".
You don't really end up happy all the time, you can't have the best of both worlds; but it shapes up your personality. The problem is, there are always lessons, but do we ever learn them and take them in? For someone as stubborn as I am, learning is something really difficult to chew in. If you're too vulnerable like me, people will take you for granted. And yes I wouldn't say so if I hadn't experienced myself. If you keep trying to close an open door, accepted what ought to be rejected, prolonged what oughtta be stopped; if you keep giving without taking (or vice-versa), even if you keep understanding without being understood.. you're bound to lose every little win you have. At the end of the day, you walk home alone crying.
I've been told that my biggest weakness is that I'm too trusting - "You tend to trust people too much, this shows you care about people a lot and value them; however trusting too much can often lead to getting hurt because you will let people walk all over you and forgive them all the time. Be careful!" Does that make sense? Slowly, I discovered how I am instinctively isolating myself from people I've learned to get close with. My mom, for instance, I kinda noticed that something has changed with my relationship to her, no matter how small that be. Then, I feel that sometimes, I become a little too indifferent to people around me: family, friends, colleagues, etc. I know it's hard to regain trust of all things, but I'm too weak to defeat it, especially if I'm faced against someone I care about too much.
I don't know how this is gonna turn out for me. As usual, all I have in my hands are questions unanswered.. A friend once said, "Don't allow others to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option".
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