Secrets&Lies

Do you believe in the saying: “Secrets hurt, Lies kill”?

Either way, they both suck as much as the other. Every single human being probably have one or two (even more) lies hidden in their closet. Small lies, big lies, half lie, serious lies, white lie, ‘black’ lie (if it ever exists) – they’re all the same! But why do we lie? Is it because of insecurities? Or cowardliness? To make other people happy? To keep them from getting hurt?

So a person doesn’t want to lie. Okay. He tries to maintain a clean image of not being known the liar, the cheater, the bad, the villain. He keeps his mouth shut. He hides those pretty little details under his pajamas so no one can see. Relief. The person is safe. Or is he?

“What you don’t know won’t hurt you”, isn’t it? If an info is given in details, things can happen, thoughts will run, issues may rise – uh-oh. So what’s the safest resolution? Half-truths. Yerr… sometimes the truth can lie as well… It’s a given truth, yea, leaving out the important information. Deception; it creates a false impression. And that is not lying? I doubt that. To me, at least, they don’t make any difference.

Go ahead and deny you haven’t lied and/nor kept any dark secrets! We are all victims of this beautiful devil smiling at the back of our heads and controlling our minds! Dumb or smart, clever and wise, pretty or ugly, crazy or not – we are all guided by these deceptions stalking every thought or decision we make. Next, it all falls down to - you. No blaming the devil. You have the divine animal right and control of yourself and your actions. You are always given the choice: the first option is truthfulness and openness, second option is to play it safe and avoid discussions, third option is denial. Funny how the last two options are kind of the same.

What happens if secrets are eventually revealed? When dark secrets are discovered? What happens when lies are too lame and obvious? When lies start to invade the world? What happens when secrets and lies become the reasons for broken relationships? Well they are, mostly. That’s exactly why people keep themselves from telling the truth because it scares them that it might end the relationship, or likely, they want to protect themselves from any blame. So, how do you fix that? Forgiveness? Oh what a really nice word.

Yet why do we get attracted to playing safe with everything? You only become objective when you reach your wit’s end, you only come spitting it out when the gravity of the situation becomes worse. Secrets and lies… well the thing is, it’s a part of life. It’s already there, ready and waiting for you. And no matter how much that idea sucks nothing can change that. Why can’t we all just stop lying?! Why can’t we just be true to ourselves and to other people? Why is it so hard not to keep secrets? You think if you hide those important information you can avoid arguments and negative thoughts? You think little nonsense don’t matter? You think it’d be better if she finds out later, or if she discovers from somebody else? Why is it too difficult to be honest??

You think secrets will keep you safe? You think lies won’t kill you later? Well think harder. You may be falling in to your own trap when the show is over. Whatever you do, unless you’re naïve, it’s gonna hurt. So you might wanna consider a U-turn before it’s gone too late.